Finding Love in College

Guest post by Donna:

College is a great time to meet new people and possibly develop some very fulfilling romantic relationships. Although there are no guarantees that you will find love in college, it is highly possible, considering the sheer number of people that will be available. Of course, as a guy, looking for love in college shouldn’t be your biggest goal by far. Instead, it should be the happy result of having a satisfying social and dating life. Here are a few things to remember when looking for love during your college years:

1. Abandon the idea of scarcity. There are many times in your life when you will feel alone in the world and it will be difficult to meet quality people in which you are interested. Your college years are not one of those times. Instead, there will be an almost unending array of potential dates. As such, don’t pin all of your hopes onto one person. If you do, you will only feel let down if you are rejected. Alternatively, mingle and talk to several people as friends and see if anything worthwhile develops. Take the opportunity to participate in campus events so you can meet even more people.
2. Understand the playing field. Not everyone in college will be looking for a long-term, serious relationship. Many people will simply be looking for fun. Don’t set your heart on a serious, long-term thing too soon. If you meet and start going out with someone you truly like, take it slowly and allow things to develop on their own. Always keep in mind that it may not work out, and if it doesn’t, you will be okay.
3. Don’t lose yourself. Okay, you’ve started dating the ‘perfect’ guy or girl and you are madly, deeply, head-over-heels in love. Now what? First, realize that real love takes a great deal of time to develop and it is important to understand the difference between infatuation and the real deal. Even if you want nothing more than to spend time with your special someone, make sure you maintain your identity. Keep your friends and spend time in activities and interests apart from your romantic interest. Doing so will give you something to talk about with each other and will keep you from becoming too clingy and dependent. Besides, absence truly does make the heart grow fonder.
4. Stay local. You will be so busy during college that you will not have the time or energy to sustain a long-distance relationship. This can be hard news to hear for many, but it is the truth. By dating at your own college, you will be close and convenient to each other, making it much easier to go on dates and spend quality time together. In addition, you will both have access to the same recreational facilities and events, allowing you to explore interests together and to develop a better relationship. Does this mean all long-distance relationships are doomed to fail? Of course not. It does mean, however, that you will have a much greater chance of success in dating someone from your college.

Donna is a writer for MyCollegesandCareers.com. My Colleges and Careers helps people determine if an online education is right for them and helps them understand which colleges are the best online universities for them and their specific situation.

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